No matter what your situation is like...
You can become a happier, more secure & relaxed stepmom now with 1:1 stepmom coaching.
Meet Laura
“Working with Jamie as a coach has been a god-send.”
“One of the best things has been being able to talk things out and not stay in a negative or toxic space but to work it out…and release it.”
“I tell people about working with my stepmom coach everywhere I go!” - LAURA N.
Life as a stepmom can be an emotional roller coaster.
HERE ARE THE THOUGHTS YOU GET TO SAY GOODBYE TO WHEN YOU WORK WITH ME:
“I finally see a future with my blended family. A future that is happy and where I can still be me."
“My relationships with my partner, my step-kids and even my own biological kids are better. I no longer get overwhelmed and feel intense anger at the things I cannot control. I have been able to let go of so much that bothered me before. I am a happier person. My step-son even told me he loved me!
Shannon
Let’s be honest. Most blended family advice is really unhelpful.
Smart women are being given bad advice that just keeps them
stuck in a cycle of shame, loneliness and resentment.
Bad advice like...
🗣 “The kids always come first, you’re the grown-up so you have to suck it up.”
🗣 “You knew what you were getting into, so why are you so upset?”
🗣 “Just love the kids like your own.”
🗣 “They’re just kids.”
🗣 “Why do you let her get to you?”
🗣“It just takes time.”
I mean…seriously? How is that supposed to help?!
No, ma’am. I want more for you.
My brilliant clients used to be in your shoes and here’s what they told me they’ve tried:
Therapy (individual and couples)
NACHO-ing
Googling
Posting in Facebook groups
Podcasts & self-help books
Just “giving it time” yet time does NOT heal all wounds
Avoiding or pulling away, hoping things would magically improve
Trying to control things
And none of that really helped
them.
…Because most therapists haven’t been in your shoes nor do they understand the very real power dynamics at play in a blended family
…Because the advice you get is either generic, too vague, or naively assumes everyone’s playing fair.
…Because podcasts and books are only helpful to a point - there’s a huge gap between knowing what to do and HOW to do it.
True peace and happiness for stepmoms comes from:
✅ Knowing how to communicate so your partner follows-through in parenting and backs you up when you need it.
✅ Coping with your stress, anxiety, anger, grief…all those emotions that come up.
✅ Setting and sticking to boundaries.
✅ Feeling confident and clear about your role in your family
✅ Being fulfilled in the other areas of your life beyond stepmomming
✅ Community with other Stepmoms
✅ Having the HANDS-ON, IN-THE-TRENCHES-WITH-YOU guidance of an expert who walks the walk AND she’s been in your shoes.
Instead of wasting time on vague, dismissive, or jaded advice…
Work with a therapist-turned-coach who's helped countless stepmoms become happier, secure, and more relaxed.
PRIVATE, 1:1 COACHING WITH SOMEONE WHO’S BEEN THERE, GETS IT, AND HAS THE TOOLS TO GET YOU GROUNDED, CLEAR, AND BACK IN CONTROL.
“I am much more at peace with my life now.”
“At the beginning, I literally hated being a stepmom. I had a lot of resentment about feeling
disrespected in my own home, undermined by biomom, and not fully understood by my own
partner. I was in a space of absolutely dreading when the stepkids came over.
This course gave me tools to deal...but also helped me to see my unique role in all of this. My
relationships with the kids have improved and I now don’t need to hide in my room when they
come over. I am less resentful, and feel like I have more resiliency in reserve to meet the
challenges of the moment.”
KRISTEN
What if your life could look like this:
You wake up on a stepkid-transition day well-rested with zero dread. You turn over to look at your partner and you feel a wave of gratitude wash over you. It feels sooo good that he’s been having your back more, enforcing rules, and setting boundaries with his ex.
And the vibes in the house are so much better.
As you step into the shower, you smile with pride at how far you’ve come, too. You don’t feel the need to fix, manage, or control things as much because you trust yourself to handle whatever comes your way.
Instead of spiraling about unexpected changes, you take it in stride now and keep doing you.
Later, when the kids get to your house, you’re relaxed.
You’re just in the flow and feeling fully present. No more hiding in your room.
You share a few jokes with them and happily leave them to have 1:1 time with their dad…
…But not before he grabs you and pulls you into a room and says,
“I know it’s hectic when the kids are here and there isn’t as much time for us. Can we have a glass of wine together after the kids are in bed?”
You head to brunch with your girlfriends where you whoop it up and feel alive and fully like yourself.
Suddenly your phone buzzes with a text from your partner that says, “Just wanted you to know I’m thinking about you.”
You grin because it feels so good to be considered.
When you get home from brunch, the house is a little more cluttered than you like, but it just doesn’t bother you as much as it used to.
You’re able to ride out hiccups now without letting them derail your whole day.
You don’t give away your power like that anymore.
That evening, the kids get out a board game and the whole family plays. One of your stepkids even shyly asks if they can sit by you.
Your heart swells because you feel so connected to your family.
When it’s bedtime, the kids protest, but your partner handles the push-back like a champ.
While pouring two glasses of wine, it hits you just how far you've come…
This life you’ve created, this peace you’ve found, it’s everything you’ve dreamed of, and more.
You’ve made resentment, doubts, and meltdowns a thing of the past.
But it was a lesson about what you truly need and deserve in your life as a stepmom
You’ve raised yourself up so much that the struggles of stepmom life no longer zap you of your energy, your agency, and your spark.
And it is a reminder of what you’ll never settle for again
(A life where your needs, ideas, & boundaries feel like
an afterthought)
Now, you’re not just surviving stepmom life—you’re
THRIVING.
“I literally don’t feel the ‘stepmom knot’ in my shoulders anymore!”
“ I didn’t know who I could talk to anymore. Nothing was helping me feel better. Nothing was helping the situation, and I was starting to build resentment towards the whole idea of being a stepmom.”
“I learned how to manage my my emotions, work with my partner, understand my step-kids and what they’re experiencing, and more. I have watched several lessons multiple times for the reminder of the steps to take when conflict or frustrations flair up.”
KAYCEE
I USED TO BE IN YOUR SHOES
I was an eager-to-help-out Stepmom who cared about her family, but I:
sometimes felt like an outsider
dreaded transition days (and then felt guilty about it)
dealt with a high-conflict bio mom
had a partner who was too permissive with the kids.
I spent so much time thinking…
If only his ex would be reasonable... if only my partner stood up to her... if only the kids were more grateful... then I could be happy. But all that did was leave me feeling hopeless, powerless, and bitter.
I worked so hard to blend our family, but after a while I felt resentful, abandoned, and misunderstood.
On the outside, we looked picture-perfect—our family was even on the cover of Crain’s!—but behind closed doors, things were breaking down.
So, we got into therapy to try to work on things.
TLDR; things didn’t get better and we eventually made the impossible decision to divorce.
Breaking that news to the kids was the hardest thing I’d ever done. I felt like a failure.
Moving into a one-bedroom apartment, missing the kids I’d grown to love, and starting over was devastating.
No one prepares you for that kind of loss as a stepmom and I grieved hard.
I floundered for a while until finally one day I decided I was done feeling guilty and sad. I vowed that if I ever fell in love with a dad again that things would be different.
So, I invested in myself.
I hired not one, but TWO women’s empowerment coaches, and I threw myself into learning and healing.
That’s when I had my breakthrough:
I discovered the THREE key ingredients I had been
missing before — and using them would change everything.
A few years after my breakthrough I did find love again and...you guessed it: he has kids. 😜
From the start, I did everything differently as stepmom version 2.0.
I got to test out those three key ingredients in real
life and guess what? They WORKED!
Now I’m in the healthiest, most supportive relationship of my life.
I get along with my stepkids, handle babymama drama without losing my cool, and feel more confident and at peace than ever.
The 3 magic ingredients that got me to a place of feeling so happy as a Stepmom?
Owning my needs & my power
Learning how to complain the right way
Dealing with my emotions & regulating my nervous system
BEFORE I kept waiting and hoping for everyone else to change…but by doing that I was handing all my power over to them. 😱
Here’s the truth I learned:
I had the power to change the entire
dynamic without anyone else doing a thing.
When I focused on
…the things I COULD control
…the way I talked to my partner
…and my emotions
✨I stopped feeling like a victim of my circumstances and started feeling in control of my happiness.✨
CAN YOU IMAGINE THAT?
In just a few months, you could be…
✨ Looking forward to family time rather than hiding in your room.
✨ Working through triggers without losing your cool and then feeling bad later.
✨ Finally feeling like you’re on the same team as your partner.
✨ Setting boundaries that actually stick.
✨ Letting go of resentment and focusing on what makes you happy.
✨ Feeling connected to your family and at peace with your role.
TRUE happiness. Freedom to be yourself. Peace and connection in your home.
THAT is what I’m saying is available to you,
now, today.
Because it shouldn’t take a divorce
for you for you to figure this stuff out.
Her partner’s ex made her life hell.
But she reclaimed her confidence, found her voice, and took control of her happiness.
“I learned that I have the choice within me to decide how to respond to bio mom’s negativity and ugly behavior. I learned that staying true to myself doesn’t mean what she does is OK.”
“I got my confidence back… I feel it getting stronger every day. I’m communicating better with my husband. I’m learning to deal with my anxiety in healthy ways that bring me back to neutral. I’ve
learned to be less defensive which decreases my anxiety and helps me deal with stepmom issues
better. I’m appreciating my stepkids more and the role I have in their life.
I’m becoming a more positive person and trying to let go of the negative. The wins are endless….one leads into the next and I’m just excited for the future.
LAURA
Introducing
1:1 COACHING JUST FOR STEPMOMS
A service brought to you by a licensed therapist who’s also a stepmom.
Get comprehensive support to help you reclaim your peace and your power so you can let go of resentment and create a life you LOVE…a life where you feel connected, empowered, and happy.
Private Stepmom Coaching makes resentment and dread a thing of the past.
and your life even richer than before...no matter your blended family
circumstances.
1. Your Needs Met ✅
2. Deeper Connection & More Security ✅
3. Confidence from Better Boundaries ✅
4. Tools for Dealing with the Ex, The Kids, & any other situation that comes your way ✅
5. Reactions You’re Proud of ✅
6. Your Spark Back ✅
1:1 STEPMOM COACHING
Transform your stepmom life in a matter of months.
This is an experience designed to help you ditch resentment,
tame emotional triggers, and create a life where you feel in
control, supported, and genuinely happy—even in the most
complicated situations.
And here’s the best part…
By taking control of your stepmom journey — without waiting for everyone else to change or just waiting for time to go by —
you’ll unlock tons of added benefits to your life:
Who doesn't want to feel happier
Have a better relationship with themselves, have more certainty in their future, get more done, and have more money + time?!
"I can’t even tell you how much of a
difference this coaching has made in my life.”
The biggest struggle for me and partner was our completely different parenting styles.
I’m so glad I took the leap!
Jamie walked me through exactly how to have the tough conversations with my partner and how to set clear expectations in a way we could both get behind. I used the scripts and step-by- step exercises to create six family rules based on our shared values—and my husband actually agreed to enforce them!
The difference has been huge. The tension in the house dropped, and for the first time in forever, I feel like we’re on the same team. I’m not carrying everything alone anymore, and I finally feel respected in my own home. If you’re struggling with parenting differences or feeling like you’re doing it all alone, Jamie’s program is exactly what you need."
MICHELLE
Don’t let parenting differences tear you apart—start building a stronger team today.
Parenting differences are the #1 reason couples in blended families split—this is how to beat the odds.
AND IN CASE YOU WERE WONDERING…
“What if I’ve already tried therapy?”
That’s great! Therapy can be an important part of your journey. My coaching complements therapy by giving you actionable tools and strategies tailored specifically to the unique challenges of stepmom life. While therapy focuses on deep emotional processing and healing, coaching is about practical solutions you can apply right now—like setting boundaries, handling bio mom drama, and managing parenting differences with your partner. Think of it as the missing puzzle piece that focuses exclusively on the stepmom experience. Together, therapy and this coaching can be a powerful combination for the change you long to see in your family and your life.
“I don’t want to be the only one working on things, but my partner won’t do couples coaching.”
I get it—it feels unfair, like you’re the only one carrying the mental load. But here’s something powerful you need to know: Families are like any system—when one part changes, the rest of the system has to adjust. So even if it feels like you’re the only one working on things, the changes you make—like setting boundaries, communicating differently, or managing stress—create ripple effects that shift the entire family dynamic. When you step up and lead the change— you’re redefining what’s possible for your entire family.
She felt like a glorified babysitter, taxi, and maid.
“When I joined this experience, I was completely burned out and stuck in a cycle of doing too much. I felt like I was carrying so much of the household stuff— drop-offs, cooking, cleaning...I was so focused on “helping’ my partner that I’d completely lost myself.
Jamie has helped me break free. The people pleasing module showed me how to stop over- functioning and prioritize my own needs without guilt, and the boundaries kit gave me tools to set limits and stick to them. Now, I feel less stressed, more respected, and finally at peace in my home. This experience completely changed how I show up for myself and my family."
JESENIA
Stop counting the days til your stepkids turn 18 and start living the life you want NOW.
She’s a full-time stepmom who struggled to know her place.
“I thought I might have not been a good fit for the program at first because I’m a full-time stepmom as the kids’ mom has passed away. But this experience has proved to be incredibly helpful for my situation.
Other stepmoms who have lost their confidence trying to navigate this role will have the tools to get back on their feet if they choose to do this program. It provided so much helpful and easily understandable content. I feel more comfortable in my home, being more open with my partner and kids without feeling the need to withdraw. I am no longer plagued by intrusive thoughts that I do not belong here. I realize that I don’t have to feel like an outsider with them forever. I realize that I am in control of everything I choose to do on my end to grow my relationship with everybody here.”
CHRISTINA
Where do YOU want to be in just a few months from now?
Proud and relieved that you’ve reclaimed your peace…or frustrated and drained because you’re still stuck in the same cycles?
You already know the answer to that question:
It’s time to try something different.
Stepmom Coaching is the most effective way to go from feeling stuck and resentful to calm, confident, and in control of your life as a stepmom.
I get it—you might be nervous to invest.
But what you’re not seeing is that this is so much bigger than“stepmom coaching.”
This is about the rest of your life.
It’s about learning to take situations that feel completely outside of your control—like bio mom decisions, stepkid behavior, or parenting styles—and finally turning them into your decision.
I want YOU to be the one deciding how your family life feels, how you show up, and what boundaries you set — not bio mom, not the kids, not anyone else.
It’s about building the kind of peace, happiness, and connection you’ve always wanted in your home.
The family & the life you’ve dreamed of doesn’t require everything to be perfect — it requires you to feel like you’re in charge of your own story.
Frequently Asked Q’s
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The investment for Stepmom Coaching is $250 per session and sessions can be purchased in 4 session packages.
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Yes, absolutely! Stepmom Coaching is for stepmoms from all walks of life and various family dynamics. Whether you're a new stepmom, experienced, or somewhere in between, my coaching provides valuable insights, strategies, and support tailored to your unique circumstances.
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Yes! Anyone who works with me privately gets invited to my monthly Stepmom Happy Hours because I know that Sisterhood is the cheat code that you didn’t know you needed. It gives you access to others who are going through the same thing to gain perspective support, and accountability. Feel seen and heard as you celebrate wins, have discussions, and all work towards healing and creating lives you never knew were possible in a role that can typically feel lonely and isolating.
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Absolutely! Stepmom Coaching is for stepmoms from around the world. I’ve worked with clients from the UK, Canada, Korea, Rome, and beyond!
Who should I contact with specific questions?
If you have a question that wasn’t answered in the FAQ, feel free to email me at jamie@jlscoachingllc.com I will answer!
